![]() He also revealed that Terai himself partakes in therapeutic crying on weekends, which he believes can relax you deeply and prepare you for the upcoming week. Ryuei-san mentioned how he can feel the changes in the people he helps cry, in a similar way to how he feels the audience's mood change after listening to a live music performance.” “The joy felt by the women after experiencing the crying session was palpable–they were all smiling and enthusiastic afterward, and seemed relaxed-even quite chatty. Thoms also says he can attest to the results he felt in the room after the session was completed. "The dilation of pupils, faster beating of the heart and other signs only help with the elation from the crying experience.” ![]() So.why a handsome man? “He said that many people behave differently around people they are attracted to, and certain experiences are more emotionally heightened when there is someone in your midst that you find attractive," explains Thoms. ![]() Terai had extensively researched the benefits of crying, and developed a technique over a number of years to induce tears, finally launching it in September 2015.” “It is the elation you feel after you cry that this service essentially provides," says Thoms. Thus, his “crying service” was designed originally to aid divorced women, but he found that others benefited as well. Their downtime might involve playing golf or sleeping all day in preparation for the upcoming work week. Many Japanese men work more than 14-hour workdays, often working during the weekend as well. Terai found that in many cases of divorce, women were the ones initiating the split. “There is a ceremony on the way into a union, and without one on the way out, he said that many people feel lost with no sense of completion.” It helps program the mind and make it receptive to change,” says Thoms. “Ceremony is an important concept in Japanese culture-from tea pouring and flower arranging, to traditional samurai and karate training-there is always a ceremony. When asked what gave him the idea to provide such a service, Terai says that he first discovered the need for a unique way of counseling Japanese couples to get over their recent divorces through inducing tears. In fact, the Japanese are among the least likely to cry of 37 nationalities polled by the International Study on Adult Crying Americans are the most likely. But for many cultures worldwide, showing sadness or anger is considered taboo, and the rites of passage into manhood dictate that emotions must be suppressed, even obliterated. “Ryeui is also a singer and samisen player who happens to be handsome, and to have studied the healing effects of tears,” says Thoms.įor those in Western societies, this crying practice might seem unorthodox-perhaps even downright strange. Terai secured permission for Thoms to record one of his crying therapy sessions, which is hosted by a “handsome man” named Ryeui-san. Terai turned out to be an accomplished businessman and author with 11 published books under his belt, including one called Ikemeso Danshi, which features pictures of attractive men crying. He then recalls seeing a brief, satirical article about a company that “sends handsome men to dry the tears of crying Japanese women- Ikemeso Takkyubin-literally the Tear Couriers.”Īfter some digging, Thoms tracked down its founder, Hiroki Terai. “Naïve, wide-eyed, and absorbing everything quirky and unusual–the fascination never ended,” says Thoms of his younger self. ![]() The Australian-born Thoms got his start in photography working for a company in Tokyo at the tender age of 21. In the short film "Crying with the Handsome Man ," filmmaker Darryl Thoms explores this unusual practice and why its founder believes it is bringing people together. Known as rui-katsu or "tear-seeking," the practice is especially popular with women and is said to relieve stress levels. He is the founder of a group crying service that encourages people to cry together while a “handsome weeping boy” wipes their tears away. In Japan, entrepreneur Hiroki Terai has even adopted this belief as a business strategy. Regardless of the reason behind it, many people believe that expressing one’s emotions in this way can be both cathartic and healthy. Even though numerous animal species shed tears, emotional crying is a uniquely human activity.
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